TRANSITION to the TEEN YEARS

                                Parents!   Are you ready?…… for the teen years? 

Teen got you stressed?              The teen years are very challenging years for most parents.

YOU ARE INVITED to a special workshop to help you survive the teen years.

Click here for flyer with details:  YMCA teen years 041713

When:  Sat. evening, May 11th, 6:30pm to 8:30pm at the Westchester YMCA.
Call the Y to register by May 9th:  (310) 670-4316.
Y members: $10
Nonmembers: $20
We will have a special raffle for Mother’s Day!
Hope to see you there!       Questions? Leave me a comment below.

 

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Discipline and Setting Limits

NewSong LA Church Flyer on Discipline

Join me at NewSong LA Church on Sunday, April 21, 1:00 to 3:00pm where I will lead a workshop on “Discipline & Setting Limits”. All are welcome. See attached flyer for more information. Hope to see you there!
images-2This introductory session is at no cost.  Donations appreciated.

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“The two things…

“The two things we can give our children are ROOTS & WINGS.”
Jonas Salk

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Questions from an Empty Nester in a New Land

When the kids finally left home, many questions came to my mind ~

What does it mean to be a “mother” now?

What does it mean to be a “father” now?

What does it mean to be a married couple now after all these years?

What’s our purpose now in life? 

What’s next?…….. For me?….. For you?….. For us?

Who am I now?……feels like a new adolescence, sort of.

Is this the end of me?…………Or the beginning of a NEW me?

What’s around the unknown curve?……new horizons look foggy now…

Will anyone want to hear what I have to say now?

Am I “too old” to be respected and heard?

Or

Am I finally “old enough” to be respected and heard for all I have learned & experienced?

Without questions, there are no answers. I’m learning to hold these uncomfortable questions, trusting the answers will come in their own time.

I tell myself it’s OK to feel adrift in new, uncharted waters.

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“HOW TO STOP BEING BULLIED” ~ January 23 ~ Free Workshop

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New Year Reflections ~

Well, we made it through the holidays! I was going to write about dealing with holiday stress, but I guess I was too stressed and too busy to write about it! Hope you weren’t expecting it. Like the holidays, we tend to have high expectations of “the most wonderful time of the year” that often fall short.

To tell you the truth, after the tragedy at a school in Connecticut on Dec. 14th, I had a hard time knowing what to write. It left me stunned, not knowing what to do. Hard to talk about “holiday stress” when such a huge tragedy strikes. All I could think about was the deep pain and sorrow the parents and children and teachers of Newtown were experiencing. I did post helpful tips for parents on Facebook and I wrote a letter to the President. What did you do? How will we help people grieve this huge loss? How will we prevent this from happening again? It is complicated with no easy quick solutions.

I received an email from a young father (and bully expert) who has two young boys, ages 3 and 5. His name is Brooks Gibbs and he sent me a very moving video about what he’s doing to help the people of Newtown, where this tragedy occurred.

Please watch this short documentary that tells the story of the work he is doing. It’s very inspiring and gives you hope that there is a way through all this grief and sorrow if we’re willing to talk about it.
http://NewtownSpeaks.org

I will be leading a free workshop at the YMCA this month about “Dealing with Bullying: How to Empower the Victim”.  It’s a different approach that has been very effective. If you’d like more information or would like to attend, please click on “Upcoming Workshops” or email me at Lmartenspeaks@yahoo.com

I hope your New Year will be full of enough joy to keep you happy and enough challenges to keep you humble and make you strong.

Remember as Ghandi once said: “BE the change you wish to see in the world” and this especially applies to parents (BE the example for your kids to follow). Tall order I know, and worth the effort. Maybe the best example is that we are willing to keep learning, especially from our mistakes.

Happy New Year! Be gentle to yourself.

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Let it Snow! (sip cocoa, read, and watch it snow!)

Let it snow! Let it snow! Let it snow!

Maybe that’s a good mantra for parents as they weather the ups and downs of parenthood.  As the song goes, …”The weather outside is frightful, but the fire is so delightful. As long as you love me so, let it snow, let it snow, let it snow.”  It seems we can survive just about anything if there is some love in our lives, someone who cares.  It’s easy to forget that we are social creatures. We need each other.  (Maybe that’s why it’s easier for me to exercise with a friend, than by myself!) So, the attitude of “let it snow”, means we can survive any storm, any situation, better together than alone. (Hurricane Sandy is a good example of people coming together to survive better together than alone.)

I know the holidays are often stressful. Our lives don’t always match the happiness we think we “should” feel this time of year. So even if you are going through hard times right now, (and for many of us the holidays bring back painful memories of the past), take time out for yourself this holiday season to be in the present and enjoy the beauty of Nature, the lights, the music, the food, the friendship(s). If you’re feeling lonely, reach out to an old friend. You might just make their day. Sometimes taking a “contrary action”, like calling an old friend, can get us out of feeling stuck with old feelings of the past or fears about the future. The key is to stay in the present.  I know it’s easier said than done. So the next time you’re out and about, take a moment to observe little kids or elderly people. Notice how they enjoy life more because they focus on the here and now……..Perhaps that’s the best gift you can give yourself & your loved ones this holiday season, being present here and now, open to receive the gifts of the present moment.

…..More about holiday stress & expectations in my next post.

Until then….. take a moment now to relax, breath……. let go……. and let it snow…..          (Hope you enjoyed the “snow” on my blog today.)

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